How To Grow Up Socialist-Realist or Not At All

The Russian artist called it: Help me to survive this deadly love.
The Russian artist Dimitri Vrubel called his graffiti: My God, Help Me to Survive This Deadly Love

The Past Is A Different Country Altogether

Dreading the moment my time of magical thinking will come to an end and my bank account will tell me to look for a job, I’ve been thinking about my CV. All 100 versions of it. I also thought about all the places who offer help in presenting me in the best possible light and advise on what to put in and what, most importantly, leave out. How in the past I squeezed and distorted my past experiences to fit some kind of job description, usually ending up feeling diminished and not wanting a job at all.

Now, still not wanting to be employed but simply be a Mensch who gets paid for writing, I can finally pen a more comprehensive, less glamorous but ultimately, more realistic account of my life.

I was born in 1973 in a town on the Polish border to a father who was born in Zagan, Silesia, in what is now Poland. In the gruesome winter of 1945 his mother, fleeing from the Russians and her past, carted him together with his two siblings in a trolley all the way to Thuringia where she sold the little jewelry (and other non-material things) she had in exchange for food and worked in semi-slavery for a farmer. That was the story of bravery and survival she told us and the one she had decided to live with, conveniently leaving out the nasty bits of what happened before, during and after the War.

My mother’s family had been brought to Thuringia by my grandfather from Teplice in Czech. After ’45, with all the so-called anti-fascists and communists remaining in the Russian sector, what was to become East Germany after the Berlin Wall was built in 1961, my grandfather became chief of the local agricultural production cooperative (LPG).

My parents, possibly brought together by a shared past of immigration and displacement, fell in love in their teens and later moved to Frankfurt/Oder where I was born. My mother was appointed judge overseeing company law, thus circumventing more political and therefore treacherous judicial appointments and resolved herself to resolving petty conflicts between socialist companies who generally didn’t meet their targets according to whatever 5-Year-Plan had been concocted.

However, after the Fall of the Wall in 1989 when DDR-citizens were allowed to view their Stasi-Files, it became apparent that she also was an IM, which stands for ‘Informeller Mitarbeiter’ (informal collaborator) for the secret service Staatssicherheit. To show you how short memories are, she was allowed to continue working as a judge regardless and later sent into retirement with flying colours.

My father, a surveyor without a proper degree, in the meantime managed to lead a somewhat Bohemian life, working as football trainer for kids and a few other things. And because he lacked professional ambition and the required mindset he got away with not joining the Workers’ Party.

According to government policy, everyone was looked after, had a flat and a job. Some merited the job they had, some didn’t. Mostly, the lowly jobs generally available didn’t merit the people doing them.  A career, even though that word was not part of GDR vocabulary, was only possible if you kept personal opinions to yourself, informed on friends, family and colleagues and were a member of The Party. Being a dictatorship of the proletariat (that term in itself as absurd as it was fictitious) everybody was meant to be equal. There was no class-system; wages were not that different whether you were a dentist or factory worker. So far so Animal Farm.

As most things, apart from the basics, were in short supply, a culture of exchange and swapping deeds was thriving. Car parts in exchange for a sack of cement, Germina trainers in exchange for a bottle of Czech Schnapps. The carpenter swapped his services with the plumber, the builder who got you the bricks for your Dacha was paid in-kind. People depended on one another which brought about a sense of solidarity, ingenuity and, not always voluntary, mutual appreciation.

And thus Ossis went about their daily lives, keeping their hopes low and horizons small, which was aided by only being allowed to travel within the Eastern Bloc countries and having limited access to Western media. Knowing all the time that Big Brother Stasi was watching and keeping meticulous records to later use for blackmail, intimidation and, most importantly, to assert power and control over its unruly citizens.

The dismay of knowing the watchful eyes and keen ears of the Secret Police were everywhere was so inherent in the people’s psyche that the Stasi’s means of mass surveillance became a quasi urban myth. In order to cope with its abstract and at the same time real threat and to go on regardless, the Stasi and its functionaries became something to make fun of with the people one trusted.

It wasn’t until Mikhail Gorbachev came to power that Ossis dared to hope for some light at the end of the tunnel. Words like Perestroika and Glasnost were radical not only in the sense of utter change and renewal they implied but also in the magic they subtly weaved in people’s blocked and brainwashed minds. What a man. What a politician. I still wonder how a quiet revolutionary like him made it to the top of a corrupt and deeply reactionary political system. I had the fortune to see and hear Mr. Gorbachev at the Cinema for Peace Gala at the Berlin Film Festival in 2009 and knew there was the man who not only changed the course of history but also the course of my life in myriad ways. I cried.

If I want to cheer myself up and feel boundless gratitude, I think about what would have become of me if the Berlin Wall hadn’t come down.

I was 15 years old in 1989 and for various reasons not selected for A-levels. The only possibility to get my A-levels anyhow and not end up in some factory polishing metal parts for electric fence energisers for the rest of my life, was to take up an apprenticeship as Storage Technician and do my A-levels on the side.

Trying to picture my impending future brought up Kafkaesque visions of huge storage facilities filled to the brim with boxes and me on a forklift going around and around to nowhere. An adolescent sense of doom descended and I envisioned my life as a grey mass of imprisoned nothingness.

But history had different plans.

As tectonic plates were already shifting in the summer of 1989 and new opportunities sprung up left, right and center I managed to get a place at the local Lyceum, and surrounded by old class mates who had made it as well, the two best years of my life so far commenced. Although the tough East German exam-system was still in place and I almost failed math and chemistry, I remember laughing and joking with my best friend so much that one of us was regularly asked to leave the classroom. Looking back I think it was the hysteria of never-before tasted freedom and possibilities which made us giddy with joy.

Throughout one thought was festering: I NEED TO GET OUT. Leave my home, my hometown, my former socialist-realist home country, to see and become part of the WORLD.

Consequently I did what all American tourists do when they come to Europe – see as much as possible in as little days as possible. And off on an inter-rail adventure my bestie and I went: Paris, Marseille, Arcachon, Rome, Venice, Athens, Corfu, Istanbul. Wide-eyed natives staring at the Eiffel Tower and throwing up in a bistro, sleeping rough in Italian train stations, passports tied around the waist, riding horses on the beach, suffering sun stroke and diarrhea on the ferry, encountering our first proper West Germans in the form of fellow travelers, smoking our first dope, learning from an American girl how to use toilet paper to blow our noses, schlepping our backpacks through Venice in the August heat looking for Marco Polo, drinking apple tea with carpet sellers in Istanbul and wondering briefly whether it would be a good idea to take a bus to the Middle East.

By then well versed in the art of prioritising and survival, culture was taking a backseat and we opted to stay put and for a tourist meal rather than visiting the Acropolis once we got to the top of the hill.

Then I turned eighteen and my life truly began.

Of course, just like my CV, this is an abridged and polished version of my experiences. I left many more things out than I put in. But for now this has to do.

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32 thoughts on “How To Grow Up Socialist-Realist or Not At All

  1. This was a fascinating read Dagmar. So rich in detail and life’s complexities. I felt the joy as you described your final 2 years at school and the adventures of travelling with your friend. What a contrast to the fate you thought you were doomed to live under the dictatorship. I was mid way through reading when I thought ‘hold on, was it a different post about a CV’ feeling a little disoriented, I wondered how I got into this fascinating story, and ofcourse at the end you cleared up my confusion. Really well told story.

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      1. It was a pleasure to read, thanks for sharing Dagmar! You did go through some crazy times- there is so much there, you could take any one paragraph and create a whole book out of it. My baby is good (now 23 months and 2 days)- getting brighter and asserting his little personality more and more each day. Still not started work- keep getting strung along about contract being on its way- and today dialling in for a phone conference with the team (even though I’m not even employed by them) to discuss planning of projects. How are you? You’ve been on a bit of a hiatus from your blog- I miss Mr Schmuck…oh, and you of course xx

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      2. nice reading your news 🙂 so the little one is almost 2 years old!
        glad you are procrastinating a bit on the back-to-work-front, there is so much more to life than excel sheets, he he!
        Now that summer is here, I’m doing more social and less media, it’s been eating a lot of my time, so finding new avenues for creativity whilst trying to concentrate on what really matters… let’s see where this will take me, I’m as ever hopeful and optimistic 😉
        have a lovely weekend dear,
        hugs dxx

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      3. Yay! enjoying summer! sounds great! news just in- I’ll be starting work on monday (life is never dull here- constant change). I will go back to my old workplace on a new 12 month contract. Have a lovely weekend. xx

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      4. Ummm also doing a writing course which is essentially the second draft of my novel synopsis + another course online but that’s only for another 5 weeks. This is me slowed down haha. WP won’t be as full on for a couple of months- maybe just flash fiction prompts I’ve recently started and occasional updates on my novel. Glad I finished the serial! 😊

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      5. You made it sound as if you lived a leisurely life from your porch observing the tides whilst eating yogurt with bananas and blueberries 🙂
        my screenwriting course was a few years ago and what I’ve learned from it was that it’s easier to get a novel published than a screenplay made…

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      6. Ha. That is the creative writing part! 😉

        Sorry- I read that a while ago on your about page and didn’t realise it wasn’t what you were doing now. So are you converting your screenplay into a novel? The course I am doing is in fact novel/screenplay writing, but up until the point I am at now, the structuring approach is all the same- it is in the 3rd draft we need to decide between novel or screenplay. When I started out a couple of years ago, I was certain I’d want to do a screenplay, but I just realised- probably mid way through the first draft, I stopped thinking of it as a screenplay and for me it is a novel I am working toward. Did you complete a screenplay at the end of it? Have you written a post on your experience?

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      7. When I did screenwriting I found it to be very different from prose writing, both are story-telling of course, but differs so much in form, format and restrictions that it almost feels like a different art form. Scripts do force you though to write in a concise and economical way which I like.
        I completed a feature film screenplay and never saw it as a novel, it was always meant to be a visual piece. Interesting that you set out to write a script and later on realised, hang on, this is a novel.
        I think prose gives you so much more freedom and space to experiment, express and be original, plus you don’t need 20 Mio Dollar and a film crew, actors, locations etc to get it made.
        Having said that, I’ve read a lot of scripts and the best were staggering pieces of storytelling.
        ‘Nuff said, good luck with your novel and finding the right agent/publisher for it!!

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      8. So have you considered novelising your script? I’ve read a screen writing text and yes – seems more prescriptive. Agent/publisher ha! I’m just thinking 1 turning point at a time! Happy Sunday xx

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      9. I’m working part-time at an arthouse cinema (even though it’s zero hours there are sick days and paid holidays, thank god) and doing a few bits on the side, but mainly now it’s being outside, enjoying nature and friends and doing yoga, meditation and morning pages!

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  2. Great insight into your life – I visited East Berlin. Your story touched me and I can see the attraction of cosmopolitan London. I also lived and worked there a while. I can’t imagine the fear, dread and grey hopelessness of living under merely labelled socialism. China is expanding so maybe we will know it …

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  3. Very nice read. Easy to relate to…I will check it regularly. After listening, watching and reading so many pretentious people, this is like fresh air. Thanks. Much appreciated

    Peter Loner

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  4. ‘simply be a Mensch’…. Schön gesagt, Dagmar.
    I wonder how much of you is still Deutsch. After WWII all Germans wanted to forget what had happened. Did you want to forget about East Germany after Die Wende, after leaving for London?

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    1. Thank you for reading and your thoughtful comments. You are right, denial is an inextricable part of the human psyche, which I think goes for both, victims and perpetrators. In terms of East Germany, it wasn’t so much that we were suffering on a daily basis, it was more an all-pervading sense of oppression and imprisonment which was stifling.

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  5. Thank you for this. I will be following you. I want to get a grad degree in something related to the GDR. You posted on my blog post recently about berlin. I am heading for Europe again next month. Not Germany though, UK, France, Netherlands. Looking forward to seeing more of what you write

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  6. It’s a fascinating story. Is this what you will write about (i.e. not in CVs but as fiction)? Do you think that you feel differently about your experiences after living in the UK for 17 years? Does your own experience affect how you think about the new forms of migration/flight of refugees into and across Europe in the last few months?

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    1. thank you very much for reading and your thoughtful comments and questions. they made me think. yes, seeing things from a distance (geography and time-wise) definitely changes the angle and feelings somewhat. Though I tried hard not to give in to a feeling of false nostalgia or sentimentality. I feel very lucky and grateful to be living in the cosmopolitan melting pot that is London. From my own and my family’s experiences, who were considered second rate and immigrants in Germany after the war, I believe that we are all immigrants, wherever we live, just a few of us are more lucky because of our birth place and the randomness of history.

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